mowindahako

MOWINDAHAKO

Mowindahako is a name to call the process of wedding ceremonies of Tolakinese in Southeast Sulawesi. Mowindahako is the 3rd process of all process that carried out by Tolakinese to get a girl who will be someone’s wife. Mowindahako carried out in some step. Firstly, the bride’s families have to waiting for welcoming process of the bridegroom arrival. When the bridegroom has arrived to the place of ceremony, he has to go to the first “Pelaminan”, there the bridegroom has to waiting for the finishing of “Mombesara”. It is same as a discussion that doing by their custom’s agent (Tolea) to tell about the purpose of their arrival to the bride’s agent in traditional language, in Tolakinese it has more specific and larger meaning. After “Mombesara” has finish the bridegroom then has to done Ijab Qabul by following the chieftain utterance. Then the bridegroom goes to a room where the bride stay, at there they have to conduct “Pembatalan Wudhu”, this is doing by touching the bride’s thumb with his thumb too, then they have to push each other until their thumb touch the chest one to another. It is done as the sign that they have become a couple. After it is finish they will be bring to the second “Pelaminan” where all guest waiting for them. When they are go there, their parents should be follow to accompany them. There the bridegroom will read off a Sighat Ta’lik in front of all guests. The finishing of reading of Sighat Ta’lik means that all of the main process of Mowindahako has done.

The wedding ceremony in Tolakinese always done in the bride’s home, one of simple reason that I has got is because someone who purposed to marriage in tolakinese must be the men, so that the wedding ceremony also must be carried out in the woman’s home. But if the bridegroom’s family want, they can carried out a second party in their home a few days later after the ceremonies in the bride’s home and the other traditional procession has done completely. According Tolakinese society in Wolasi all of those processes still conduct in every ceremony, except the reading of Sighat Ta’lik. It doesn’t used anymore in recently time with unspecific reason.